How To Handle Fear And Anxiety

how to handle fear and anxiety

How To Handle Fear And Anxiety

Everyone encounters fearful moments in their life. And each one of us have different triggers that will initiate a fear response. Now there are seven different types of fear. And what I want to go through in this particular blog is to explain what happens in our minds when we encounter a moment that draws out that fear and also explain what are the different types of fear. And more importantly, what is it that we can do to dissolve the fear? And why does fear show up in the first place in our life?

Well, if we don’t handle our fear, what happens is we can’t think straight. We can’t look for alternatives or solutions or opportunities that might be around us. We get paralysed by that fear in many cases. And ultimately what’s happening is that we’re not operating from the Executive Center part of our brain and we’re out of equilibrium.
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Now, if you’ve read previous blogs, you understand what I mean by being out of equilibrium. So when we’re not operating from our Executive Center and we’re operating out of equilibrium, meaning we’re not connected with our Unconscious and ultimately we’re not connected with the SuperConscious, that’s where we can’t find opportunities. We can’t find alternatives or creative ways of getting out of our particular situation. So that’s what happens when fear shows up.

But ultimately there’s something that triggers from an event or a moment in our life that will trigger that fear. Now you would have heard people talk about, well, in a moment of fear, there’s two responses, there’s fight or flight. Meaning that we will fight against a particular situation or we will run away. But what I found is that there is another response, and that’s the response of freeze, meaning that we somewhat get paralysed in our moment of thinking. And therefore we can’t think straight from the perspective of how is it that we can get out of our current situation? So we’re literally paralysed, frozen in that moment in time and paralysed by that fear.

Now what happens is that our mind is operating from the amygdala side of our brain. And then what happens when we experience that fear is that the stress hormones start to build up in our body. Now, as the stress hormones start to build up, our body begins to contract. We will literally move to a situation whereby if you can imagine this in your own mind, whereby you’re standing straight and upright in yourself, and you’re feeling confident about yourself and your being, when we encounter a fearful moment, our body will literally start to contract. So we start to stoop. We start to move towards being in a fetal position. And for many people, when they’re in high levels of fear and anxiety, the body will actually move to the fetal position where they’ll curl up in bed or curl up on the couch in that fetal position and wanting just to make themselves smaller and smaller.

What also happens is our breathing starts to become more shallow. And we start, and I’ll use the term, whereby we build castles in our mind, meaning that fear or that anxiety starts to build up so much that we can build these amazing stories in our life of the potential of what can happen. So we start to build castles in our mind and they’re typically not good castles, they’re literally horrific castles because we fear the worst. We fear of what’s going to happen of what is the worst case scenario of what might actually happen. So that spiral starts to begin and bring us out of control.

Now because there’s so much emotion around the fear that’s building up, the fear becomes fact, meaning we manifest more in our life, which gives us the evidence to compound that fear and that emotion that builds up in our lives. So fear can become fact if we stick in that moment and that emotion of fear. Because when you’ve got the thoughts matched with the emotions and feelings, that’s what you’re going to make manifest. So that’s how we bring about more circumstances and more evidence in our life to compound and bring about more and more fear to show up in our lives.

So when we get triggered, fear starts to build. So what we need to do is we need to reset the brain. Now what’s the quickest way of actually resetting the brain? Well, if, as you remember what I said earlier, our body starts to contract. Now, if our body starts to contract and our stress hormones are circulating throughout our body, what we’ve got to do is literally get us out in that particular situation, reset the mind from that moment and get us into a much more Executive Center side of thinking, a much more creative, innovative, and opportunistic way of actually thinking.

So the fastest way of resetting the mind is through our breathing. Now there’s a technique that I give my clients whereby it’s a very, very simple technique where you inhale for five seconds and you hold that breath for five seconds and then you exhale for five seconds.

Now, the reason we’re doing this is ultimately to reset the brain. But after doing it, you’ll actually see and feel a difference in yourself physically because your body will be expanding because you have to fill your chest with that breath for five seconds and hold it for five seconds. Ultimately, what you’re doing is you’re expanding your physical body. So you can no longer be in the fetal position. You’re expanding your body to literally take over the full capacity of your lungs. And ultimately what’s actually happening is also in the brain is that there’s a whole load of activities going on in order to reset the brain to get you out of that fearful moment.

So the first exercise that we got to do is a breathing exercise. So what you do is inhale for five seconds, then hold that breath for five seconds, and then exhale the breath for five seconds and keep going for the five seconds, emptying your lungs from that breath.

You can do this exercise while you’re driving, while you’re sitting on a couch or doing an activity. When you do the exercise you will notice a difference in your mind, but also in your body as well. And it’s a very, very quick exercise to do when you feel fear coming and descending upon you. I also give this exercise to clients when they’re about to go on stage or they’re about to give a very important speech or about to go into a very important meeting whereby it just resets the brain and gets them settled and centered in their own mind.

Now, if you repeat that sequence, meaning inhaling, holding, and exhaling for five seconds, if you repeat that a few times, you will absolutely find a significant difference by just doing that very simple exercise. So my encouragement is that when fear starts to show up and you find yourself getting a little bit stressed, well then what you can do is go through that breathing exercise.

Now let’s look at fear itself.

Well, the definition of fear that I use is that fear is the anticipation of a future event that we perceive poses a risk.

Now, if it’s the anticipation of a future event, it means that it’s within our control, meaning the event hasn’t happened yet. So if it’s a future event, obviously it hasn’t happened yet. It’s the anticipation of a future event. It hasn’t happened.

Now the second part of that definition is that we perceive it poses a risk, meaning it’s in our thoughts, it’s in our mind, it’s in our thinking that it poses a risk for ourselves. Now it doesn’t eliminate the fear. It’s just a definition to understand that’s what fear is.

I’ll bring you through an exercise of what you can do to dissolve that particular fear, but understand it from this perspective. Fear is the anticipation of a future event that we perceive poses a risk. Now, the very fact that it’s a future event and the very fact that we perceive it means that we can dissolve it. We can remove that perception and therefore dissolve the actual fear itself in order to move ourselves into the Executive Center part of the brain and start working out ways and solutions of removing the triggers, but also removing the fear from our lives and the situation that we find ourselves in that’s causing the fear.

So let’s look at the different types of fear that actually show up.

There are seven types of fear and I’m going to go through each one of them for you. First of all, there’s the fear of failure. Now fear of failure is about that we’re not going to achieve the success that we want to achieve, that we had been looking forward to, that we wanted to achieve, that we had in our mind at some point in the future that we were going to achieve a level of success. It’s the fear of failure from that perception. Or it’s from the perspective that there’s an outcome that we were expecting, but we’re not going to get the outcome. Now there’s a fear that we’re not going to get that outcome. So fear of failure is about something in the future that we were holding onto, that we were looking to be rewarded with. And therefore we’re not going to get that anticipated future event or that future outcome. So it’s a fear of failure from that perspective.

The next one is the fear of loss of something. That can be the loss of money or time, the loss of our efforts, the loss of a relationship, the loss of property, for example. So whether it be a home, a car, jewelry, a watch, whatever it might be. So it’s the loss of something, or even the loss of our career or our reputation. It’s something that we’re holding onto that we fear the loss of.

The next one is the fear of not being good enough. And that can come up from the perspective of where we say to ourselves that, “I don’t have the courage to do something,” or, “I’m not good enough to do something. Who am I to stand on stage and give a talk about something? Who am I to write an article and, say, put forward my expertise, for example?” These are the kinds of conversations that we have with ourselves that brings about the fear of not being good enough, meaning we’re not intelligent enough. We don’t have the expertise. We don’t have the competence. We don’t have the appearance or the looks that we would like to have. We don’t have the knowledge or we don’t have the fitness, whatever it might be. These are all elements or pieces of it that come together from the perspective of us feeling that we’re not good enough to do something.

Then there’s the loss of the fear of loss of respect. And that can be as an individual, as a leader, as a business owner, a business person, as an entrepreneur. Ultimately what it means is it’s our standing in our business or our community, or even our family. So for something that might happen at a future event, our fear is that we’re going to lose the respect that we have or our standing within our community, our family, our environment, our business of what people will perceive of ourselves. So it is that fear of loss of respect.

The next one is the fear of rejection. So if it’s from the rejection of a partner or a staff member or a client, for example, or even a potential client, rejection from society or rejection from our community or from our family. It’s that fear again of being rejected by somebody or a group of people.

The next one for some people is the fear of death, or the fear of illness. It’s the fear of getting an illness and what that illness might mean to ourselves, of what will happen in the future. And what are the implications if we were to fall ill, or if we were to die, what would happen to our family or our siblings or the people that we’re responsible for. So when we start to concentrate and focus on the fear of death or the fear of an illness, it’s that kind of scenario that we start to build within ourselves, what might happen?

The last one, then out of seven is the fear of breaking rules. So they could be rules of society. They could be religious rules. For many, many years, people had a fear of breaking those rules that were laid down by church or laid down by religion. There’s the political rules, there’s rules of moral code that we adhere to. And even if you look at the current situation by way of the pandemic with COVID-19, the fear of people breaking the rules associated with COVID-19, of the restrictions and all those kinds of things, it’s that fear that can build up with other people, within ourselves.

So they’re the seven different types of fear, the fear of failure, the fear of loss of something, the fear of not being good enough, the fear of loss of respect, the fear rejection, the fear of death or illness, or the fear of breaking rules. They’re the different types of fear. But what is it that we can do to dissolve the fear when it shows up in our life?

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Well, a lot of people would say, and you may have read about this in books or publications or articles – “Well, feel the fear and do it anyway.” Now for me, when I looked at that and tried it, it didn’t work for me because ultimately for me, and in my mind I was saying, “Well, it doesn’t remove the fear. It means that we’ll just have to step over the fear and do it anyway, but it doesn’t remove the fear. It doesn’t remove the trigger. It doesn’t remove the cause of the fear itself.” So for me, it didn’t work. And for you, you might say, well, there might be some situations whereby it does work, but in other situations it doesn’t work.

Then there’s the other cliches of, well, fear stands for false evidence appearing real. And yes it does, meaning that, yes, you can use it as an acronym and therefore just get on with your life or just get on with things and therefore a statement that it isn’t real. And yes, as I said earlier on, the definition of fear is it’s a perception of a future event. So therefore, yes, it’s true in its essence. However, it still doesn’t remove the fear. It doesn’t dissolve the fear of what we have to deal with.

And other people want to say, just think positively, don’t think about the fear, just think of its opposite and just get over yourselves and just get on with things.

Now, while that might make sense in some circumstances, it won’t, again, deal with the fear and ultimately what it’s also not doing, it’s not bringing it back into equilibrium. And the whole point of what we want to do is operate from the state of equilibrium. Because when we’re operating from a state of equilibrium, we are objective. We’re seeing both sides, but also we’re operating from the Executive Center with the Unconscious and to the SuperConscious. And that’s how we make manifest and how we bring about the things that we want to have within our life. So just thinking positively is taking us out of equilibrium state because it’s not being objective. So while it might deal with a particular situation at this moment in time, it’s not going to ultimately solve the underlying problem or the underlying trigger.

So if we were to dissolve fear, well then what is it that we need to do in order to dissolve the actual fear?

Well, we’ve got to work with how the brain works. Now our conscious mind is thinking, as I said earlier on, ultimately what it’s doing is it’s building castles in our mind of the worst case scenario of the worst things that could happen, and we get attached to that outcome. So if that how our conscious mind thinks, then we need to work with how the conscious mind thinks. And how we do it is we look in an objective way, meaning we get our mind, our conscious part of our mind, to operate in a different way. How we do it is to think objectively. How do we do that? We ask questions. That’s literally what we do.

In order to do this, there’s seven questions that I’m going to bring you down through in order to actually dissolve the fear.

Now, if you can think of the fear that’s coming up for you, meaning that if you’ve experienced a recent fear, whatever that fear might be, when you go through the list of questions, you’ll find that the fear will be dissolved. Then we have to also remove the trigger. That’s another part.

But I want to bring you through is the sequence of questions because it’s set in a particular way. And when you go through it, it will dissolve the fear from that perspective.

Now, the first question is, well, what am I fearful of? Now, when you’re answering that question, it’s what are you fearful of? What’s the worst thing that can happen? Or what’s the worst possible case scenario that could potentially happen if whatever the event is triggering that emotional fear coming up? So the first question is, what am I fearful of? Because that has to be a statement from the perspective of you’ve got to name what you’re most afraid of. Now, for some people that could be, well, I might lose my reputation, as I said if you go back to the different types of fear that I explained earlier on. I’ll lose my reputation or how I’m respected in society, or I could lose my house. It’s whatever the worst case scenario is for you, that’s what you’ve got to name.

Now, the next question is, so what’s the actual evidence that you have that makes these negative thoughts to be factual, meaning what’s the evidence that you have that makes these negative thoughts to be true? Now, when you look at that question and you start to think about it, and you start to look at it from the perspective of what evidence do I have right now in this moment in time, that’s going to give rise to “I’m going to lose my house or I’m going to lose my reputation” or whatever it is that you’ve answered to the first question.

Now, what you’ll find in every single one of those questions, meaning every single time you answer that question, what you find the answer will always be, I don’t have any evidence. There is no evidence right now at the moment. Because if you go back to the definition of fear, fear is the perception of a future event, so the event hasn’t happened yet. So therefore there’s no evidence right now at the moment to substantiate, to make that fear, to make that event the answer to you what you gave to the first question to make it absolutely true, to make it factual. So the answer to that question, question number two, is always, “I don’t have any evidence.”

But then you go onto the question number three. And you look, okay, so what is the evidence that I have that makes these negative thoughts to be false? Because then you start to look at and start to gather the evidence in your mind.

Now it’s a lot easier to answer these questions when you have somebody qualified to pull the information out of you, because our natural reaction is to say, “Well, I don’t have any evidence. I don’t have anything.” And you start getting back into building up that fear within yourself. And so if you’re to work through these questions with somebody that’s qualified to be able to do it with you, well then you will have a much, much better result.

But even just for now, just to start thinking about, the fear that you’re experiencing right now at the moment, ask yourself what evidence do you have that makes these negative thoughts to be false? What you’ll start to find, if you take, say for example, the scenario of, “Well, I could potentially lose my house.” And that’s the worst thing that you’re fearful of, when we start to look at the evidence to make that thought false, what we find is, well, we’re still paying the mortgage or we’re still paying the rent. We haven’t gotten any letters from the bank to say that the house is going to be repossessed. We haven’t received any information to say that, for definite, our house is going to be taken off us. We don’t have that evidence right now at the moment. So therefore it’s false.

So when we start to look and find the evidence that makes these negative thoughts to be false, we start to work from a conscious mind perspective, say, “Oh, okay. So we don’t have the evidence right now at the moment. So therefore there has to be an alternative way of thinking or in terms of way of moving forward.”

Now, if you move on to the next question, which is, what are the benefits of experiencing the circumstances I’m experiencing right now? Our mind will naturally be drawn towards all the negatives, all the drawbacks of any moment that shows up in our life. So our mind has built up all this evidence for ourselves of all the drawbacks. However, what we want to do is force the conscious thinking, force the mind, to start looking at what are the benefits of the current situation? Or what are the benefits of the circumstances that you’re experiencing right now at the moment?

And you may find a multitude of different benefits when you start to answer that question, benefits that you’ve never seen before. And when you see the benefits, ultimately what you’re doing is you’re bringing yourself back into equilibrium because there’s always both sides. There’s always positives and negatives. There’s always benefits and drawbacks. But the very fact of you asking yourself that question to identify the benefits, now you’re bringing yourself back into equilibrium.

The next question is, how is the current situation serving you towards your purpose? Now, if you remember back in an earlier blog, I outlined how you actually find your purpose. Now, when you find your purpose and you know what your purpose is and you’re working towards your purpose, when you ask the question, what is the current situation, or what are the current circumstances, or whatever is happening in your life right now at the moment, that you’re seeing as being a fearful moment, or you’re seeing it as being a negative moment, start to ask yourself the question from the point of view of how is the current event or the current moment serving you towards your purpose? And when you start to look for that evidence, what you’ll find is you’ll be drawn, or driven towards doing something that’s getting you one step closer to your purpose. It’s moving you away from what you were doing in the past, or what you were doing before to move you towards fulfilling your purpose.

And that’s typically what I’ve found with every single client that I drill this down into whereby they find, what they’re doing is getting them to do more activities that’s completely and totally in line with their purpose. So now they see it as being a way of moving them closer towards their purpose, as opposed to moving them away from the purpose.

The next question then is, so what’s a more objective way of thinking about the situation right now at the moment? And the more objective way is understanding the law duality, that there’s always both sides. There’s positives and negatives, there’s benefits and drawbacks. So when we see that there’s both sides and we see that there’s a better way. Meaning even just from going through the breathing exercise, go through, identify, what’s the evidence in your life right now at the moment, and how is it helping you and guiding you towards your purpose? When we start to bring all that together in a more objective way, you’ll see there are a lot more benefits that can be seen, right now at the moment, that’s helped you in your life are serving you as you’re going forward. So it’s an objective way of seeing both sides, and that’s bringing you more into equilibrium.

And then lastly, the last question is, so what new learning or positive actions can you take from this exercise or from this moment? What’s the new learning or positive actions that you can take going forward? And that’s different for a lot of different people, whereby they may say, well, anytime a fear comes up, you’re going to go through the exercise. So they remind themselves of doing that exercise or they’ll set themselves a reminder in some shape or form whereby when fear starts to build up, they’ll do the breathing exercise. Or when fear starts to build up, they’ll go and answer each one of those questions, or they’ll partner with somebody, or ask somebody that’s experienced to pull the information out of them in order to ask the questions. And therefore they can dissolve the fear from that perspective. So that could be new learning. And a new learning might be in relation to whatever it is that’s moving you towards or getting you to do differently or to do more of, that’s what you need to do more of going forward.

So when you answer each one of those questions, ultimately if you’ve done it correctly and done it right, and you’ve done it thoroughly, what you’ll find is that fear will be dissolved.

But let me ask you, why is fear there in the first place? Fear is there as feedback for ourselves that we’re not in equilibrium or that we’re not living our purpose. Fear is a feedback mechanism. All the negative emotions and feelings that we feel is feedback to ourselves that we’re not in equilibrium or we’re not living our true purpose.

So when we bring ourselves into equilibrium, which is what objective thinking does, those questions that I gave you, when we bring ourselves into equilibrium and we’re living our purpose, well then fear doesn’t show up because we’re seeing both sides. We are completely in equilibrium and we’re totally connected. Equilibrium for me, as I said earlier on, equilibrium is where we are connected with our Unconscious and we’re connected with the SuperConscious. When we’re in equilibrium, there is no fear.

Now, yes, is fear going to show up at some point in the future? Yes, when we’re out of equilibrium, but ultimately there may be a trigger that we haven’t dissolved as yet. And when we dissolve the trigger, well, then the fear won’t show up going forward. Now, the type of fear that you experience, meaning, remember I said that there’s seven different types of fear, the type of fear that you experience is your feedback to say that you’re attached to something. So if, for example, it’s a fear of losing your money or it’s a fear losing your house, or it’s connected with, for example, your reputation or your ego, it’s your attachment to something. And that’s also bringing you out of equilibrium.

So what has to happen is that we have to dissolve the attachment, because if you remember back to one of the previous blogs, what I spoke about was that in The Executive Code, picture this in your own mind, if you can imagine you’ve got one circle whereby it’s your Executive Center connected with another circle, your Unconscious, and then connected with another circle, which is the SuperConscious. So ultimately what you’re doing is you’re trying to make yourself in equilibrium between each one of those circles.

As soon as you’re attached to something, whether it be money, whether it be your relationship, whether it be your ego or reputation or something, it’s bringing that pendulum out of equilibrium. So what we’ve got to do is we’ve got to dissolve the attachment as well as the trigger that brings up the fear.

So what we need to do ultimately, when we’re trying to dissolve fear, first of all, is to reset your brain. And how we do that is by our breathing exercise, the one that I gave you earlier on whereby we breathe in for five seconds, we hold it for five seconds and we exhale for five seconds. That resets the brain very quickly.

Then we have to identify what is the fear, what is it that we’re most fearful of and we’re going to then go through the process of dissolving that fear. And we do that by the objective thinking questions exercise. And then we have to identify the attachment of what we have that’s bringing up that fear whereby we’re not being in equilibrium. What is it that’s bringing you out of equilibrium? And what’s the trigger that’s causing that fear to show up in the first place? When you get that information and you start to dissolve the trigger and the attachment, then it’s no longer going to show up in your life.

So what I would encourage you to do is the next time fear starts to show for you is to go through that process for yourself, because ultimately what you’ll find then is you bring yourself back into equilibrium, and then you’ll be operating from the Executive Center, with your Unconscious and into the SuperConscious.

So that’s how we actually handle fear.

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When You’re Lacking Motivation & Getting Bogged Down

When You're Lacking Motivation And Getting Bogged Down

Have you ever had the feeling that you’re just not making progress? That you’ve lots to do, but you can’t seem to find the motivation or the energy to do anything. That unless it’s absolutely critical or there’s a date deadline on it, that you don’t get around to actually doing it. So what you end up doing in these circumstances when you’re feeling that you’re just getting bogged down is that you end up filling your day with tasks that are easy or that you don’t need much brainpower, such as you may find that space that needs to be cleaned again and again, or you end up sorting out some clutter that’s in your drawer or on your shelf.

Or there are times where you might find yourself browsing endless and mindless things on social media, or perhaps even having another cup of coffee in the hope that it will give you that much-needed stimulation.
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Ultimately you end up procrastinating and putting more important things on the long finger. You end up getting and feeling bogged down with things and with life. Why is that? Well, you could have a fear or anxiety about something, or the work at hand that you have to do isn’t exciting enough. Or you’re unsure if you’re going in the right direction with your business or your career or your life, or perhaps you’re unsure as to how the best way of doing things is. Whatever it is that you are to do, whatever the task is at hand, that you might not have the skills or the experience of doing what it is. Or you’re doing things that just don’t feel right. You’re just not getting the same enjoyment or fulfilment from that you once had before. Where before you loved what you were doing, but now it’s like, “What’s the point?” You’re not on your purpose.


So what can you do about it, this feeling of being bogged down? Well, first of all, there’s a couple of things that we need to look at. First of all, you’ve got to check your energy levels. And what’s going to lead into your energy levels is look at your sleep, look at your diet and look at your exercise. Now, I’m not going to talk at length about your diet and your exercise because the vast majority of people and the vast majority of us know what we need to do when it comes to our diet and our exercise, and equally when it comes to our sleep. If we’re not getting the decent number of hours of sleep, well, then we’re not going to have that energy for the next day to do what it is that we need to do.



Equally, if we’re not eating healthy food, well, then that’s going to have a direct impact on our energy levels and what it is that we need to get done. And equally, if we’re not getting a level of exercise that’s getting our blood flowing really around our body, well then we’re not going to have, again, those energy levels of what we actually need. So first of all, we got to check those pieces and see whether we’re ticking the boxes from that perspective, whether we are getting enough sleep, or whether we are actually eating healthily, or whether we get enough exercise. But then we’ve also got to check what I call the energy vampires versus the energy chargers. Now, the energy vampires is what are the things, or even the people that take your energy away? And equally, what are the things or the activities, the experiences or the people that bring you energy.


Now, for some people, they need to be around other people and they feed off the energy from those other people. And by them working with other people, that’s what brings them energy. But equally, you can be around other people and they can literally suck every ounce of energy from you. So when you start to look at going through each day in each of your weeks, and you start to become more aware and be more sensitive of what are the moments and the things and the people that are energy vampires versus energy chargers, meaning what are the things that give you more energy? When you become more sensitive, more aware of those, well then it’s making the decision for yourself as regards well, how do you start to eliminate the energy vampires, and how do you bring into your life more energy chargers, things that bring you more energy?



The next question you want to ask yourself is, “Are you getting to clear your head? There are lots of different ways of how you can get to the point of clearing your head. But let me explain what clearing your head is in the first place. Clearing your head is clearing your mind of all the thoughts that are going on. So if you’re in a situation whereby you’re trying to just settle your mind, but yet all these thoughts are coming into your mind and you start to think about all those thoughts, well then ultimately what you’re doing is you’re not clearing your head. There are just loads of different activities of what people can do in order to clear their mind. So that can be either going for a walk, it could be meditation, it could be mindfulness, it could be yoga, it could be Pilates, it could be just doing something different or something creative.



What you got to do is you got to find the activity for you that suits you and works for you in how you clear your mind, how you clear your head. For me many, many years ago, I discovered and researched a huge amount. I tried a lot of different activities to try and find this way of how I could clear my mind of all my thoughts, and just be absolutely focused just on one thing. And the only thing that I could find at that time was horse riding. Because when you’re horse riding, you absolutely have to focus on the horse. You need to be completely in tune with the horse, its movements, and equally to horse is in tune with yourself. And you have this intuitive flow going between you and the horse. You can only focus on one thing, and that’s the horse riding. You can’t focus on anything else.



As soon as your mind wanders on all different things, well then the horse intuitively picks it up. And therefore it will do a whole load of other things in order to literally get your attention. See, it’s a great way that I’ve found for myself to focus my attention from that perspective. And it cleared my mind of all the other thoughts that were going on. Now for you, it’s about trying to find what that activity is for you. As I mentioned, it could be mindfulness, it could be meditation, it could be doing art, it could be drama. It could be anything for you, but you’ve got to have an activity which is literally giving you the ability to clear your mind, to clear the head. Now what you’ll find, and the reason why I’m encouraged to do this is that the more you clear your mind or clear your head out of all of those thoughts, ultimately what you’re doing is you’re opening the gateway to your unconscious. And you’re now allowing the inspired thoughts to come from your unconscious mind, into your conscious mind, into your Executive Centre part of your brain.



That’s ultimately what you want to try and achieve. So if you want to set yourself a goal or objective, that’s why it is that you’re doing what I’m encouraged to do by way of clearing your mind. But ultimately you’ll get a whole load of other benefits literally by just doing those kinds of exercises or those kinds of activities. The other thing that you got to look at is because people get bogged down because they feel a lot of stress or a lot of fear. So if you’ve got that feeling of being just bogged down and looking at life and not feeling the level of energy or encouragement or inspiration of what it is that you want to achieve, well, thenask yourself, what are you fearful of? What are you anxious about, or what are you stressed out about? And therefore what is it that you can do in order to eliminate or dissolve each one of those fears or anxieties?

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On a previous blog, I discussed fear and anxiety. So if you haven’t listened to it, I’d encourage you to go back and look at that particular blog in order to actually dissolve the fear and anxiety. But the question you want to look at is for yourself is what are the circumstances or what are the situations or the moments that are showing up in your life that’s allowing you to feel fearful or to feel anxious or to feel stressed? And it’s because of those feelings that we can move into a situation where we just feel that we’re bogged down, that we’re not getting anywhere that we just feel, “Well, what’s the point of what it is that we’re doing?” Or, for want of a better word, we feel that we’re just bored with what it is that we’re doing. So start to look at it from that perspective.



Next thing is to start to analyze the tasks that you’re doing. And when you make a list of all the tasks that you’re doing, and you’re spending your time on, questions that you want to ask yourself is, “Is it of value?” So all the different tasks that you’re doing throughout the day, throughout the week, throughout the month, are the tasks that you’re doing, are they of value? Are they bringing you closer to what it is your dream is? Are they bring you closer to fulfilling your purpose? Do you need to do the task, or could you learn to delegate it or outsource it or even dump it if it doesn’t need to be done? What do you need to learn? What are the things, what are the skills and knowledge and experience that you need to develop in order to actually do what it is that you need to do?


As I said earlier on, we can feel bogged down because we’ve got a task to do, but we actually just don’t know how to do it. We don’t have that skill, the knowledge and experience in actually doing that particular task. So we can have this feeling of being bogged down. So therefore, what is it that you need to learn in order to do the task and to do it more effectively and more efficiently, and therefore just move forward? So if you’re not filling your day with activities that are in line with your purpose, your day is going to be filled with what it is that you don’t want. So just look at all the different tasks that you’re doing and ask yourself and go through each one of them. Do you need to get rid of it, do you need to eliminate it from your life completely? Is it possible to delegate or outsource it?


Do you need to develop your competence within that particular task that needs to be done? Or ultimately the really big question for yourself is the tasks that you’re doing throughout your day or throughout your week, are they helping you and getting you closer to fulfilling your purpose, for fulfilling your dream? And if they’re not, what you’re going to find is your day will be absolutely filled with tasks that you don’t want, if you’re not doing the activities of what it is that you do want. The next thing you got to look at is what’s your environment? I’ll give you an example from my perspective. During this COVID, and as a country we were all locked down, and I had to move from my usual office, and I had to set up a new temporary office in the home in order to operate from my new office environment. When I set up my new office in this temporary environment, I put my computer facing a particular way. So therefore, what was in front of me was my screen.



I couldn’t see past the screen because literally it was just in front of me, but I was blocking all the light that was coming into the room. I couldn’t see outside the window. I couldn’t see the sunlight. I couldn’t see nature outside my window because it was completely blocked by the screen. And what I’ve found over the first two days was that my actual energies completely dropped. And it wasn’t until I turned my desk purposely because I noticed the energy drop in myself, and all I did was I turned my desk 90 degrees in order to have the sunlight come through, for me to be able to turn my head and be able to see out the window, see nature, see the sunlight coming through. And as soon as I did it, my energy level started to come up. So when you become more sensitive to your environment and look around where it is that you’re working, what are the things that are not giving you energy in your environment, and what are the things that are literally draining your energy?



If you become more and more sensitive to the actual room itself and to your environment, you can actually pick up what’s the energy in the room? And is it is something that’s conducive for you to be actually more productive, or is it actually stressing you out and distracting you? So if there are things that are in your room, for example, clutter, and you’re seeing this constant clutter in the environment that you’re working within, well then that’s going to be distracting, but it’s also going to drain your energy. So the more you ask yourself is the energy in the room, is your environment conducive to what it is that you’re trying to do? For example, there are people that I know that have a very, very creative environment. And that whole creative environment feeds their energy for themselves. There are other people that are very, very organized, and they have to have everything structured in their environment and in the room that they work within.


And that for them feeds their energy because they now have order in their life, they have order in their particular environment. So the question you want to look at is think about it from the perspective of, as I mentioned earlier on the energy vampires versus what’s the energy that’s bringing you energy. So think of it from that perspective, and are there changes that you need to make to your environment. But your environment goes much further than that. It’s not just your physical environment, it’s also, what’s the news and the social media or the conversations that you’re having with other people are. For example, when you’re looking at social media channels, or you’re looking at the news, is your energy draining from you? As you’re having those conversations with people, or you’re reading those particular news feeds on social media or you’re watching TV or listening to on the radio, is it draining your energy or is it bringing you energy?



So your environment goes much further than just your physical environment of your home or your office. So just think about it from that perspective. Then look at okay, so what’s the work that you’re doing with your customers or your clients? Are you enjoying the kind of work that you’re doing? Are you enjoying the kind of customers and clients that you’re working with? And if you’re not enjoying your customers or your clients, well, then that’s going to bring a different level of energy to how you’re engaging with your customers and your clients. And you’re not going to bring your full self to that relationship if you’re not feeling that energy that you have with your customers and clients, if you’re not enjoying the work that you’re doing. And it’s when you have the absolute desire and excitement about the work that it is that you’re doing, obviously you’re going to feel bogged down in what it is that you’re doing. Now think of it from, yes, the customers and clients that you’re working with, but equally the type of work that you’re doing.


Let me give you an example. I originally trained as a management accountant. So when I set up my business in the first place in 2001, I started doing management accounts for a number of different clients. But what I actually noticed was that I was getting very, very stressed out in particular aspects of the work that I was doing with the clients. And what I found was that I absolutely really, really enjoyed the work from the perspective of guiding my clients to where it is that they were supposed to get to, what their purpose is, what their business should be all about and helping them to grow and scale their businesses from that perspective. But the times when I was actually doing the management accounting pieces, meaning I was heavily ingrained in actually doing the accounts, I didn’t enjoy whatsoever. I got hugely stressed out in that kind of work.



What I didn’t realize was that when I was in my career, I had other people doing that work for me, and therefore I was reporting on the actual management accounts, as opposed to doing the management accounts. So when I found that out for myself, I immediately removed all that aspect of the work from the service offering that I was doing. I completely removed it and only just focused on reporting on the management accounts and in helping and guiding the business owners to grow and scale their businesses.



So look at it from your own perspective and sense of, are there aspects of what it is that you do in your client relationships that you don’t really absolutely enjoy doing? And if you don’t, well, then what is it that you can do to either delegate or outsource it, or remove it from your service offering, or have other people do it for you? So look at the kind of work that you’re doing. The next thing you want to look at is, okay, so what is your people? Meaning what are the people that you surround yourself with? And that can take into friends, family, acquaintances, and as I said earlier on clients and customers. I heard a phrase many, many years ago, and the phrase was your “network is your net worth”. Meaning that the people that you surround yourself with, if you were to take the average earnings of the people that you surround yourself with, then your net worth would equate to the average of the same net worth of those individuals.


Now you can take it from that perspective, but I want to go one step further. Because if your energy levels… If you’re taking the average energy levels of the people that you surround yourself with, well then that’s the energy that you’re going to have. So just as much in financial terms, your net worth from a financial perspective will be the average of your network, the people that you surround yourself with. That’s from a financial perspective. If you take it from an energy perspective, your energetic net worth will be the average of the energetic or the energy levels of the people that you surround yourself with. So what you want to look at is that is there not a group that you want to form part of? Are there other people that you want to be surrounding yourself with? Either friends or acquaintances or clients or customers or other people that you meet with on a regular basis?



And the more you get involved in those other people, really what it’s doing is it’s bringing up your energy levels, but it’s also helping you to stretch even further for what it is that you can actually achieve. You don’t want to be surrounded with people that are going to throw water on your plans and your dreams, and what it is that you actually want to achieve. You want those around you to be your champions, to be your cheerleaders, to be your mentors, your advisors. You want people to support and stretch you and encourage you to go after what it is. It’s okay to be challenged, to challenge your thoughts and to challenge your plans of what it is that you’re going to achieve. But you want people there to literally support you and say, “Yes, go after it.” That’s the kind of people that you want to be around.


So when you think about the people that you’re around with, well then think of it from that perspective. It’s not just from a financial perspective, it’s from an energy perspective as well. But I want to go deeper. The question I have for you is what’s driving you, what’s motivating you? Now motivation follows action. So let me explain that. If you can think about it, so if you’re sitting on the couch and you’re watching TV and you’re flicking through the channels and you have it in your mindset, “Oh, I must go to the gym.” And you still constantly go through this thought process, “I must go to the gym. I must go to the gym. I must go to the gym.” But an hour later, you’re still sitting on the couch and flicking through the channels. It’s not until such time as you actually pick up the bag and put your runners on perhaps, that you literally start to get the motivation to actually go to the gym and do all the physical exercises that you want to do in the gym.


Motivation follows action. As soon as you start taking action, that’s when the motivation starts to follow. That can be applied to anything in your personal life or in your business life. So when it comes to writing the report that you need to get done, when you start writing that report, that’s when the motivation will start to follow. When it comes to doing physical exercise, as soon as you put those runners on, well then that’s when the motivation is going to follow. So just think of it from that perspective. Now, ultimately what you want to have and understand for yourself is what is actually driving you forward? What is it that’s motivating you in going forward or wanting to achieve what it is that you want to achieve? The next question is, do you know what your purpose is, what your mission is. If you don’t know what your purpose is and what your mission is, what it is you’re absolutely here to do, you’re not going to be jumping out of bed in the morning in order to fulfil your purpose, because it’s just not there. It’s just you don’t have it.



So the question you had got to have for yourself is have you got that mission that you’re absolutely trying to fulfil in life, that purpose of what it is that you want to achieve, what you’re going after to achieve. When you have that absolute sense of purpose and that clarity, that’s when you’re jumping out of bed in order to actually achieve that dream, achieve that mission in life. Now, the next question is that if you don’t have that purpose, you may have a sense of what your purpose is, or you may have a sense of what it is that you want to achieve, but perhaps it’s not big enough for you. Meaning it’s not an inspired vision, you’re only seeing a small glimpse of what it is that you want to do. When you have an absolute inspired vision of what it is that you want to achieve, what you’re seeking to achieve, if your vision is big enough, you will literally be driven in order to achieve your vision.



So that’s where, when I say, I want to go deeper, that’s what I mean by going deeper. Understanding what your purpose is, what your inspired vision is, the difference, the absolute clarity on the difference that you’re going to make for the other people, the other people that you’re going to serve in terms of your customers, your clients, the impact, the difference you want to make in other people’s lives, in whatever shape or form that may look like. If your vision is not inspired enough, it’s not big enough, well then you’re going to feel bogged down. You’re not going to feel that energy level. You’re not going to feel what it is that you want to go after. So these are some of the questions you want to start asking yourself, have you got your purpose? Have you got your inspired vision?



And then start to look at, okay, so who’s helping you to actually achieve your vision, to achieve that mission, that purpose, what it is that you want to achieve. But then there’s also the day-to-day side of things of what I said earlier on by way of looking at your environment, looking at people that you’re surrounding yourself with, looking at your diet, your exercise, and what it is that you’re doing in your life. Your routines, your habits, all of those things come together in order for you to achieve what it is that you want to achieve.



So these are some of the questions you want to ponder on. With those questions, you get answers. You see without an inspired vision, you’ll operate from the amygdala. You’ll operate from the lower part of your brain. And if you’re operating from the lower part of your brain, you’re never going to operate from the Executive Centre part of the brain. You’ve got to move and shift into the Executive Centre part of the brain. Now, how you’ll know that is that if you’re not doing activities that align with your Genius Drivers, well then you’re going to fill your day with meaningless tasks, meaningless activities that are not going to bring you forward to what it is your purpose is, what it is that your inspired vision is. Over 90% of the people that I come across don’t know, or are absolutely completely unsure of what their Genius Drivers are.


They think they know what their Genius Drivers are, but they’re not. Over 90% of the people that I come across don’t know for definite what their Genius Drivers are. If you don’t know what your Genius Drivers are, that’s what you got to find out. That’s what you got to work on. It’s your purpose. It leads to your purpose. It leads to what it is that you want to bring about. And if your business or your career isn’t structured around your Genius Drivers, well then obviously you’re going to have that feeling of just feeling bogged down. Now, as I said in previous blogs, there’s a link within the description of this or this blog, that will bring you to find out what your Genius Drivers are.


If you don’t know what your Genius Drivers are, absolutely find out what they are, because it’s the key cornerstone of what it is that you need in your life in order to bring meaning and fulfilment, and it’s what leads to your purpose, what leads to having that inspired vision of what’s going to get you jumping out of bed in the morning in order to actually achieve that mission that you want to have in life.



Are you striving to be your best? Not in terms of physical shape or fitness accomplishments. Are you striving to be your best and to be the difference that you want to make in this world to have the impact that you want to have for other people, to have that legacy that you want to leave behind, to be your best in terms of your purpose? Knowing your purpose and knowing your mission, knowing what it is that you’re going after. Are you striving to be the best in that mission, in that purpose of what it is that you are here to fulfil?


Or are you settling for less? Just settling and spending your days being less than what it is that you can achieve, being less than what your potential is, doing things that you know don’t serve you, doing things that you know just literally won’t bring you closer to what it is that you know deep down within yourself that you’re here for much, much greater. You’re here for absolutely much more to actually achieve. If you’re settling for less, why? Why wouldn’t you go and embrace life to its absolute fullest and bring about what it is that you want to actually achieve. Life is for achieving absolutely everything that you’re here to achieve. It’s for you to make manifest what you’re absolutely here to make manifest. It’s to experience life in a whole level, that most people don’t get to achieve. That’s what you’re here to do, so why would you settle for less?



Spend your days on doing activities that are bringing you closer to your purpose, bring you closer to having that fulfilment. It’s literally wanting to suck every single ounce out of life. If you don’t know what your purpose is, you’re going to have the lack of direction, the lack of clarity. You’re not going to have that higher sense of meaning and fulfilment and purpose in your life. You’re not going to be jumping out of bed every morning to fulfil what it is your purpose of what it is your mission is. You’re just going to feel like you’re on a treadmill on that proverbial hamster wheel. That’s not what life is supposed to be about. Life is exhilarating. It’s literally getting into life and sucking every single ounce out of life. Life is for living. It’s not for playing small.


So the question you have is, what is that it is that you’re doing in order to move you closer to what it is that your purpose is? Are there going to be challenges? Yes, of course there is. Otherwise you don’t get to do, and you don’t get to learn. You don’t get to do what it is that you’re supposed to do, and if there’s not challenges, challenges are to stretch you. Challenges are there for you to learn from. Challenges are there to get you to the higher levels. So yes, of course there are challenges, but you don’t see challenges as a challenge. When you’re working on your purpose and you’re driven in order to achieve the purpose that you’re here to actually achieve, you see it as a way of getting you closer to your purpose, not as a challenge. Because you know at a much, much deeper level why the challenge is there in the first place.



Is there an easier way to get there? Absolutely, of course there is. But here’s the thing, why wait for tomorrow? Why not start now, today, this minute, to live the life you’re meant to live? It’s time to live the life you were absolutely born to make manifest. It’s your decision. That’s it. It absolutely starts with your decision. And with your decision, you take action. Motivation follows action. That’s it for now until the next blog, I wish you absolutely every success.

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The Fog

The Fog

There is a true story about a swimmer Florence Chadwick that I came across many, many years ago and I want to relay this actual story to you here. Now, this story is courtesy of Don Meyer, as he puts it much more eloquently than I could ever do and it’s called The Fog. So let me tell you the story.

Florence Chadwick loved to swim. She was born in San Diego, California on November 9, 1918. And she grew up on the beach and began competing as a swimmer at the age of six. After four years of the defeats, her uncle entered her in a contest at the age of 10 in a two and a half-mile rough water night swim where she came in fourth.

One year later at age 11, Chadwick won first place in a six-mile race across the choppy waters at the San Diego Bay Channel. For the next 19 years, she continued as a competitive swimmer. When she was 13 she came in second at the U.S. National Championships. She was the first woman to swim across the English Channel both ways. She even swam across the straits of Gibraltar. In 1962 after a career of swimming accomplishments, Chadwick was admitted to the San Diego Hall of Champions into the Breitbard Hall of Fame.

But it wasn’t easy you see. On July 4th, 1952, Chadwick was 34 years old when she attempted to become the first woman to swim the 21 miles across the Catalina Channel, from Catalina Island to Palos Verde on the California coast. The weather that day was challenging because the ocean was ice-cold and the fog was so thick she could barely see to support boats that followed her. The tides and the currents were against her, and to make matters worse, sharks were in the area. But at daybreak she decided to go forward anyway, expecting the fog to lift any time.

Hour after hour she swam, the fog had never lifted. Her mother and trainer followed her in one of the support boats encouraging her to keep going. While Americans watched on television other members of her support crew fired rifles at the sharks to drive them away. She kept going and going. At about the 15 hour point she began to doubt her ability to finish the swim. She told her mother she didn’t think she could make it. Unfortunately, at 15 hours and 55 minutes she had to stop and with huge disappointment she asked her support crew to take her out of the water.

Because of the fog she could not see the coastline, so she had no idea where she was. She soon found out however that she was less than a mile from the coast. She could have definitely reached it if she had just stayed in the water a few minutes longer. Later she told a reporter, “Look, I’m not excusing myself, but if I could have seen the land I know I could have made it.”

The fog had made her unable to see her goal and it felt to her like she was getting absolutely nowhere. Two months later, she tried again. And though the fog was just as dense, this time she kept going. Her time was 13 hours and 47 minutes, breaking a 27-year-old record by more than two hours and becoming the first woman ever to complete the swim.

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You see, we all encounter moments of fog, not seeing where we’re heading, not seeing land, not seeing the coastline. We’re heading to land but we just can’t see it. We know a sense of direction of where we’re going to go but we just can’t see the coastline. Like Chadwick, we can be doing really well in our business or our career but then we encounter a challenge that can either break us or make us. It depends on how we deal with that challenge then as it arises. What can happen is that doubt can set in. Doubt in our ability, our expertise, our intentions, our credibility, or even our competence, our confidence, our courage, and being able to get and go after what it is that we’re trying to achieve.

We can be on the brink of success but because we can’t see the finish line from where we’re actually standing right now, we give up. Like what Chadwick said, if she could have seen the coastline she could have made it. As I mentioned in one of the previous blogs and they called it The Snakes and Ladders Life, what happens as we get closer and closer to the brink of success, that more snakes begin to show up, more challenges begin to face up. And the reason being is because we’re getting to that point and getting closer and closer to what it is we’re about to achieve. And we have to, while we are in that energy and in that space, we have to overcome more and more challenges. And the reason being is because it strengthens us for actually what we’re supposed to do, what we’re going to be doing going forward. But it’s how we face those challenges and whether we meet them head-on, or whether we get around them or whatever it is in order to get through those challenges. That’s what makes the difference in actually reaching to the success that you want to actually reach.

Now, there are times that we need to have trust and faith, we have to be able to stand firm to what it is that we want to create. If we can’t see the reality meaning if we can’t see that coastline, like what Chadwick was trying to see as she was swimming across the channel, if we can’t see that coastline or we can see that end destination of what it looks like in real terms, we can see it in our mind’s eye perhaps, but we can’t perhaps maybe see it in real terms, tangible terms. That’s when we absolutely need our highest level of trust and faith that we’re going to achieve what it is that we’re actually going to achieve.

But there are times we need a supporter, somebody to guide us, a coach or a mentor, somebody that’s there on our side to encourage us, to guide us of where we need to get to. Now, I’ve always had a mentor in my life from the point of when I was building my career. In every single position that I held I always had a mentor. And that mentor was always a few steps ahead of me by way of he or she had experienced and gone through some of the difficulties and challenges that I had faced, but had also reached a higher level of success that I hadn’t reached at that moment in time. I always had a mentor to guide me because if they had gone through all the different things of what I’m trying to achieve, well, then I found that that was the fastest and the easiest way to get to where I want to get to.

When I set up my own business in 2001, I always employed a mentor because the reason being is they’re there to encourage you, they’re there to stretch you, they’re there to challenge you. And it surprises me, we all have an accountant or we have a lawyer, or we have a physical trainer for our fitness or our physique. But for so many people they don’t have mentors in their life or in their business. They don’t have that guide or that support to challenge them, to support them, to encourage them, to push them and to guide them as it regards where they’re supposed to go. There are times when we are faced with challenges and you need to find somebody in your circle of influence that can actually be there as your mentor, as your cheerleader to bring you forward.

But what I’ve also learned is that success breeds success. And you’ve probably heard this term as well yourself before whereby success breeds success. Our successes give us those springboards for higher levels. Now, one of the things you can do is to make a list of your successes. Acknowledge your successes and recognize the successes that you have actually achieved. And the more successes that you document and you look at and you’re able to see them in your life, the more successes that you list out, well then the more you’re going to feel and believe of what you can actually achieve going forward. The more you acknowledge the successes that you’ve actually achieved, the more that’s going to bring you forward in your own business life or your personal life.

Now think of it this way. Roger Bannister in 1954 broke the four-minute mile. Up to that point, nobody had run the mile within four minutes, but then soon after Roger Bannister broke that four-minute mile ever since then there’s been thousands of athletes that have achieved running the mile within four minutes to the extent that now it’s a case of they’ve even reduced it by 17 seconds. Now people can run the mile in less than four minutes.

You see, what happens is the more we can see something happening, the more we can see it in real terms, we get that higher level of belief in what it is that can be achieved. Up to the point in 1954 when nobody could actually achieve running the mile within four minutes, and then as soon as they could see one person Roger Bannister running that mile within four minutes, since then thousands of athletes have run that mile in less than four minutes. The more you’re able to develop and grow your belief around what it is that you want to actually achieve, the more you will actually succeed.

The next thing that we can take from the story of Chadwick is that when we have persistence and endurance in our life and in our business, well then everything comes about. When I’m talking to people that are involved in business development and sales, I encourage them to keep being persistent and consistent in what it is that they’re doing. But let me put it this way. When it comes to sales, for example, a lot of people give up at the first ask, meaning that they go to a potential client and they ask them for business. And if the client says no, they feel rejected and they walk away. They don’t come back and ask again, “Are you ready for the sale?”

And they may not be ready at that point in time but they may be ready at some point in the future. But if they’ve gone and they’ve moved away, meaning that they haven’t gone back to ask again, they haven’t been persistent, they haven’t been consistent in what they’re doing as well and they haven’t had that self-endurance of what it is they’re going after, well, then that sale is completely lost going forward.

The more you have consistency and you’re persistent in what it is that you’re going after, well then the more you’re going to reach to that success that you want to achieve. You’ve got to have that endurance for staying the pace of staying in the water just like Chadwick and swimming and constantly keeping going and heading towards what it is that you’re looking to actually achieve.

What brings that up is what are your habits? What are your routines? What I mean by routines is, what are your right routines? What are the right things to do when it comes to your routines? Because a couple of questions you want to ask yourself is, well, what are the habits and the routines that you do currently have? And out of all of those habits and routines that you currently have, what are the ones that you need to stop? Which are the ones that aren’t bringing you forward that are actually holding you back? And out of those habits and routines, which are the ones that you need to stop?

But then equally there’s also habits and routines that we need to do more of because we find that we do get a level of success from the ones that we’re doing. Whether that be maybe from a health perspective or from a mindset perspective or what it is that we’re doing within our business or in our personal life, what are the habits and routines that you need to do more of? Then, what are the habits and routines you need to do less of? But also there are the ones that we need to create, meaning that we’re not doing them so therefore we need to bring those habits and routines into our life. And these are absolutely new habits and new formats, new routines that we need to bring into our life in order to bring us forward.

They’re just some of the questions that you may want to ask yourself, which are the ones you need to stop, which are the ones who need to do more of, which are the ones need to do less off and which new routines that you want to bring onboard? You see, you’ve got a destination to get to, that’s your purpose, that’s where you want to get to, that’s where you want to end up. Just like Chadwick, it can be hard when you can’t see the coastline, you can’t see the land of what it is that you’re heading towards. When you can’t see it clearly where you’re heading to, that’s where you’ve got to have absolute faith and belief of what it is that you believe in or what you want to achieve and that’s what you’re heading towards.

But you got to keep going, that’s where the endurance piece comes into play. So many people just give up, they just let go and they don’t go after what it is they’re supposed to be going after. They don’t follow that train because they’ve faced a challenge and they just give up. But those challenges are there to be overcome. They’re there to strengthen you, they’re there for you to learn from. So the more you get over those challenges and head towards what it is that your dream is, well then the more you’re going to succeed in it.

You see there are things we know deep down within ourselves that we need to do and there are things that you need to do yourself. You know this, you know that deep within yourself there are things, there’s actions, there are routines, whatever it is, there are habits that you need to be doing. But what’s stopping you? What’s holding you back? What’s keeping you from achieving the things that you want to achieve? What’s holding you back from doing the things that you know you need to do? Where are you holding yourself back?

These are just so many questions you want to contemplate on. And ultimately the fundamental question is, do you want to stay where you are or do you want to actually achieve a much, much higher level? Because it’s by achieving a much, much higher level that you get closer and closer to your dream, closer and closer to your purpose. It’s taking those stepping stones, and the more stepping stones you take the closer you get to your dream. Well, that’s it for this blog and I look forward to connecting with you on the next blog. Until then, I wish you every success.

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