How To Thrive In Life

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How To Thrive In Life

When it comes to your business, your career or your sport, or any other interest that you might have, what does it mean to thrive in life?

Well, it could mean to grow, to develop, or to flourish.

But what if to thrive in life was to mean for you to reach your truest, highest potential – that is unique to you – so that you get the recognition and the reward that you desire – and ultimately get to make the impact you want to make,

or you get to make the difference you want to make – whether that be in your business, your career, your family, your community, your country or in the world?

And what if it was also to have freedom?

For many, when the word freedom is used, it conjures up financial freedom or personal freedom.

However, I view freedom as much more than that.

It’s complete freedom.

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It’s being free to be the true essence of who you are. Without the limitations. Where we don’t have anything holding us back in terms of the negative thoughts, judgements, patterns or beliefs that keep us from achieving that which we innermost desire.

Where we get to achieve what we want to achieve. What we’re meant to achieve.

That for me is real freedom.

In my last blog post I talked about The Snakes and Ladders Life – about where we find ourselves sometimes moving three steps forward and two steps back.

Where throughout our life we encounter challenges while also achieving wins.

But I also mentioned that life is a game – and with it being a game – it’s supposed to be fun. In order to thrive in life it is to be fun.

So what if you had the rule book and the knowhow in order to not only win the game, but to excel at playing it – and that life then turns out to be fun and enjoyable.

Where you get to see the much bigger picture – as well as your part in that picture – your role – your purpose.

As well as knowing how to achieve it and fulfil it.

Well when I’m working with clients, that’s what The Executive Code does in order to help clients to thrive in life.

In this blog, I’ll be talking about the elements that you need – so as to know the rule book, as well as how to play the game of life – so that ultimately you get to reach your truest, and highest potential.

But why is it that people don’t reach their highest potential?

Well if you were to break the population down into 4 categories

What you will find in the first category are the people that struggle.

These are people that no matter how hard they work, and they generally work very hard, their business still struggles.

Generally what keeps them struggling is their fears.

Then the next category are the people that are doing just ok – this is where the majority of people are, and because they’re doing ok – they hit a glass ceiling – what I call the good enough ceiling.

This is the ceiling that what they’re achieving is good enough for them.

And what keeps them going is that when things start to drop from being good enough, to being ok, fear starts to kick in, and then they start working harder or doing something active in order to get back to being good enough.

And as soon as they reach their good enough ceiling – they relax and take the foot of the gas.

So they continuously go through this cycle of good enough to fear – to good enough to fear – to good enough…and so on.

And for the ones that want to get past the “good enough” ceiling, well they’re the ones that get to being great.

These people do a lot better than all the others – the strugglers and the ok people. They’re doing just great!

And then there’s the small percentage of the population that are thriving. They get to thrive in life.

It’s a really small percentage.

But why is that?

Well, take many of the clients I’ve worked with over the years as a business consultant and the thousands of people I’ve observed.

The vast majority of people have a vision of where they want to get to.

They have an image of what they want their life, their business, their career to look like.

And in order to achieve that vision – they invest in all the mechanics of getting their business, their career or their life right – the product or service they’re going to sell, the career path they’re going to take, the relationship, home and family they want to bring about.

And they also look at what they need to help them along the way – so they invest in people, sales & marketing, technology, university courses, for their business or career – or they’ll look for the house, or relationship that will make them fulfilled.

But then there’s the percentage of people that understand that they themselves need to improve – so they attend courses or get coaching on how to be a better business owner, manager, employee, or partner – and they believe that by improving themselves, they’ll succeed more, and be better for others.

On one of these blog posts I’ll talk about why that is such a bad idea. But for now, let me talk about the tiny percentage of people that thrive.

They’re the ones that realise that it’s not about changing others, and it’s not about changing themselves. In order for them to thrive in life they understand that it’s about changing how they view the world and how they interact in the world.

You see, Buddha talked about three different types of people and this forms part of what I’m talking about here – they’re the people that are asleep. Then there are the awakened. And then there are the enlightened. They’re the ones that know who they truly are.

But there are also the ones that not only know who they truly are – but live life from being who they truly are.

And that there is a very very tiny percentage of the world population.

Let me tell you what happens.

There are twelve “states of being” that people pass through. What I mean by a state of being is that it’s about how you view yourself.

It’s how you would describe yourself in terms of your mental state or how you perceive yourself in the world

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For the purpose of this blog post, I’ll cover 5 of the twelve states.

There’s the state of despair – this is where you feel empty. That your life is meaningless and you wonder what the point of living is for. You have a sense that other people just “don’t get you”. You might even find yourself curled up on the couch crying, as well as literally crying out in despair for your situation. How it shows up is that you have a low mood or you have little energy for doing anything. You isolate yourself from others and sometimes contemplate ending your life. In fact, you’re just surviving. And for many people this is their life behind closed doors. Whereas to the outside world, they portray something completely different. They might portray the “everything is fine” persona – because as I said, others just don’t get them.

Then there’s the state of hope – it’s a good bit better than despair. This is where you’re looking towards the future. You’re planning ahead. You have desires or dreams to fulfil, but you also have fears that hold you back. But you’re not thinking about ending your life, your thinking about and hopeful for what your life could be like in the future. You have a sense of identity of who you are, and this might be expressed in terms of your business, your career, your job title or whatever is most important to you in your life. You have a focus and you’re interacting with other people. It doesn’t matter if you class yourself as extrovert or introvert – you’re still engaged with the world and not wanting to isolate yourself – unlike when you’re in despair. You’re hard-working as you’re hopeful about the future and want to achieve your goals as quickly as possible.

Then there’s the state of belief. Belief about yourself. You have a sense of how good you can be. Your ego is higher than in the other two states of despair and hope. You feel more confident. You feel you are becoming more successful. Your aim is to achieve as much as you possibly can. But it tends to be in terms of money, relationships, or status. In essence, there’s no real meaning to what you’re doing, you’re doing what you’re doing to get ahead, to get the money to pay the bills, to buy the things you want to buy, to have the holidays you want to have. You’re ambitious. You’re driven. You have loads of toys – the cars, the houses, the holidays, the meals out, the possessions – and you have the title.

And it’s at that state of being that the critical line is present.

It’s that critical line that is the threshold. The threshold that can prevent you from being able to thrive in life.

On one side you have the states of despair, hope and belief.

And then on the other side of the critical line are the states of knowing and mastery.

There are a number of things that can show up in our life that makes us aware of the critical line. It can be the sudden death of a loved one. The illness that alters our life. The financial loss from our business or redundancy. Or the separation or divorce.

It’s these moments of impact that get us to reflect inwardly.

For some people, they get over the speed-bump so to speak, and they go back to the way they were before, before the death of their loved one, the illness, the financial setback, the divorce – or whatever it was.

But for others, there is a slow awakening.

They have a desire for something better – to be greater – to thrive.

Or they have a sense that they should be doing something different. Like as if they’re being called to something greater. To make a difference. To make an impact. Not just in terms of the business or career that they have, but in terms of making other peoples lives better off.

It’s at that critical line that they move to the state of knowing.

They have an inner calling to change towards something greater. They have more compassion for others or for their environment. They get more inspired thoughts as they listen more to their intuition or unconscious mind. They seek out more and more knowledge. They attend more courses in the search for a deeper truth. As Buddha describes – they are becoming more awakened. They become more deeply spiritually aware and have a much deeper awareness of a Higher Power – God, Universe, Higher Mind, or Source. They become more about giving to others and serving others. It’s less about themselves and more about others. They understand deeply what is meant by emotional intelligence – because they feel it deeper inside themselves. They become more emotional themselves. They’re more inspired by the wonderment of nature, the universe, and the accomplishments of people. Some get involved in coaching others or volunteering as they see and feel the impact that it makes for themselves and for others.

But for many, they are still a split person. Inwardly, on one side, they’re trying desperately to hold onto the old world that they knew on the other side of the critical line. That critical threshold line. The world of what fed their ego. While on the other side they’re aching to follow what their inner self is calling them to. And this unsettling battle between the outer and the inner world can be very difficult for many people if they don’t know how to navigate it or they don’t have someone to guide them.

And then there’s the state of mastery. The ultimate way of living. The ultimate way of being. Because in this state you are on a mission. You’re driven – not like before. You’re driven to achieve your mission for the impact you know it will have on others. You feel abundant in all meanings of the word. There is no scarcity. You are in sheer awe and gratitude of how the universe works. You are completely in flow and have total freedom. The freedom that I spoke about earlier. You are free from everything. You have no attachment to anything. You are one. You are in oneness with everything and everyone. You know love in its pure sense. In its divine sense. In its unconditional sense. In its nonjudgemental sense – for everything and for everyone. You are a pioneer in your field. A leader. A maverick. You question the status quo as you know there is a better way. Your desire to make an impact is at it’s greatest. You want to bring about change. Bring about influence. And equally are well rewarded for it as you completely understand the law of compensation. You know how to flow and interact with the universe. You have become the true alchemist. That’s true mastery. You know, experience and work with the true inner power that you have inside. That amazing power that everyone has – but they just haven’t tapped into it.

That’s the state I want to bring you to through what I call The Executive Code. That’s the state that gets you to thrive in life.

To recap – the five states that I’ve outlined here, out of the twelve in total, are – despair, hope, belief, knowing and mastery.

For many people, they can spend days, weeks, months or even years in the same one state.

Whereas for others they might find themselves going up and down different states throughout the day, the week, the month or the year. A bit like the heartbeat monitor I spoke about in the last blog post.

Different things trigger them. And from that trigger, their state changes. It’s by identifying the triggers and then dissolving them, that we manage to maintain equilibrium and then move up to higher states quicker.

When you know and understand the different states of being, and you know the difference between each state – you realise what needs to be done to get to a higher state, and therefore ultimately to get to thrive in life.

So in order for you to get to thrive in life, it would be good for you to identify which state you would consider yourself as being in – and then from that, determine what you need to do to move to one of the higher states.

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The Snakes & Ladders Life

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When I was a kid, I used to play a board game called Snakes And Ladders. You might remember it yourself. In America, it’s called Chutes And Ladders, but over here it’s called Snakes And Ladders. And the concept of the game was that it had 100 squares and each player picks a token to represent where they are on the board game. Then as each person takes their turn to roll the dice, they move forward on the squares from one to a hundred by the number of squares that matches the number that they rolled the dice on. Therefore, if a player rolls the dice and gets a three, then the player moves forward three squares and the winner of the game is the first player to reach the square 100. However, on the board game, there are snakes or chutes in America and if you land on a square that has the head of a snake, you have to slide down that snake on the board, to where the tail ends and therefore you go backwards in the game.

But then there’s also ladders on the board and when you land on a square that has the bottom of a ladder, you’re able to move up the ladder to a higher number, thereby getting closer to the square 100 and being the winner. Now, it is a great game, I really loved and enjoyed playing it and it can be really exciting when it’s played with multiple players. But you see, I use the analogy of Snakes And Ladders Life, like the board game, Snakes And Ladders, and I use that to represent how we go through life, much like the board game itself.

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We are born, which can be represented by starting at square one. We’re given a body or a persona to live in, which is the token we use on the board game. We move forward year by year with the aim of getting to the ripe old age of a hundred or until we reach the success that we desire. And I know success means different things to different people, but ultimately that’s typically what we go through life as to do. Is to aim towards that either the ripe old age or to reach the level of success that we want to get to.

However, during our life, we encounter snakes. And these show up in the form of fears, addictions, depression or the events that knock us back like an illness, the death of a loved one or the breakdown of our marriage. Perhaps losing a job, losing our home or financial loss. But then there’s also the ladders that get us advancing in life such as the job promotion that we get, or our business begins to take off or we meet a new partner, we have to develop a relationship. We get a new client into our business, or perhaps when it comes to an illness, we get a clear diagnosis or even win the lottery if we’re so lucky to have such a thing or we just got a lucky break in life.

Some are big and some are small. And life is just full of these snakes and ladders for one better word. And like on the board game, in life not only does it feel we move forward and backwards, but there are also times we feel we’re literally going around in circles. We find ourselves in a pattern of taking three steps forward and then two steps back. It’s like a never-ending Ferris wheel and we’re just going around this Ferris wheel like on a treadmill and life for us, just seems to go round in circles.

But then there’re times where we get closer to our success, the level that we want and we’re just on the tip of it, and we can literally taste it. It’s actually so close and what happens is that more and more snakes start to appear. Everywhere we turn there is just a snake there ready to pull us back. And we’re on the brink of success and we’re nearly there, but we just get knocked back consistently. And some people give up in life and throw the board game off the table. Others keep going and get back on the board and get to the brink of success and in the hope that they will eventually get past all the snakes and reach that level of success that they so, so desire.

Life is like this. Life is like that Snakes And Ladders board game. But life is also like the infinity symbol that shows up as the constant ebb and flow. And the more we get into the ebb and flow of life, the easier it becomes to reach where we’re heading. We get into the flow. We get into how life meanders, up and down, back and forth and the more we get into the flow, the easier it becomes. I mean, rather than fighting against it, we actually work with it in order to get us to where we want to get to. And as we move past every increasing challenge, we too move upwards towards success. Constantly stretching. Constantly evolving. Whatever the definition of success means to you, and I want to emphasise that, each person has their own definition of success, but again we’re constantly moving towards that success, that level that we want to achieve.

But also on the Snakes And Ladders Life board game, there are the other players. They are the people that hold us back or are regularly negative around us. They bring us down. These are the people I refer to typically as the energy vampires. They pull our energy down. They suck literally every single ounce of energy out of us. They are the people that it’s not nice to be around, we don’t typically enjoy their company. They can also be the ones that we respect and because they tell us we shouldn’t do something, we take on board what they say because we respect them and therefore we don’t do these things that in our heart we would absolutely love to do. We end up not following our dreams. We end up not following our inner desire because we’ve taken on board the advice or the guidance of these people are again what I refer to as energy vampires.

And also want on the Snakes And Ladders Life board game, however, there’s also the helpers and these are the ones that support us and want to see the best of us and want the best for us and will support us in whatever way they can. And whatever we ask them, they are there to actually help us.

And some helpers may be there for a long time while other helpers may only be there for a very short period of time in our life. And sometimes we may not even recognise them as helpers, as at the times they may push our buttons or push our triggers. We may not like what they’re saying because they’re being challenging to us, but in fact, they’re actually there to stretch us and to help us to grow. And the one thing with the Snakes And Ladders Life is we don’t get to see the squares that are ahead of us. We just get to see the next square that we are to take. The next step, that one thing that we’re to do the next. We don’t get to see where all the snakes are on the board game, we don’t see where all the ladders are.

We move from one year to the next year. From one square to the next square. Literally the unknown future, we don’t perhaps know clearly where we’re heading. We have a sense, we have an idea of where perhaps where we’re heading, but we just don’t see all the steps laid out in front of us. But if we were to stand back from the board game of life and in your mind’s eye, you’re able to see the whole board laid out on the table in front of you. You could see everything that was going to happen, where all the snakes were and where all the ladders were.

You would know where you’re heading and what squares to avoid. You would see the whole thing, all the full picture in front of you, just as if you were playing the real game in real life as in the real board game. And as you play the game, the excitement lies in trying to avoid the snakes while trying desperately to get to the ladders so that you can win the game as quickly as possible. But in real life, if you had that knowledge, if you were able to see the full board game in front of you of what your life is to be like, where all the snakes are and where all the ladders are, you will do the same.

You would try and avoid all the snakes, you would just move as quickly as possible to the ladders. The thing is not knowing what’s ahead of us in life is part of the excitement. In the work that I do with my clients, I get to see the most amazing images of their purpose in life and where they’re supposed to end up. These pictures I get to see for my clients and the impact of what their life is going to be, these knowing is oftentimes absolutely breathtaking, it’s humbling, it’s absolutely exciting all at the exact same time.

But what I found over the years, rather than sharing the complete image with my clients, I need to break it down into smaller chunks, smaller pieces. If I shared a full picture of the image of what I get, they get scared or they say they don’t have the courage to do what I’m expressing from the image itself or how on earth they are going to achieve what I’m saying, I’m seeing in the image or in the knowing. Where for me what is overwhelming is the great way and the amazing what I see in where everything fits together and literally how this whole Universe works is just phenomenal. But for them it’s overwhelming and it’s a challenge.

So I’ve learned to give the picture piece by piece, much like the board game, square by square. That’s what life is like. For some, they can see it as being scary or unnerving, not knowing what lies ahead. For others, they see it as an adventure and they understand that as challenges appear or the snakes in terms of the board game as they appear, they view these challenges as a way of making them stronger in order to give them the tools that they actually need later in life in order to actually reach the level of success that you want or to reach their goal, to make the impact that they want to make, to fulfil their purpose in life. And I know this to be true.

I’ve learned that every challenge that shows up in our life is there for a reason, it’s there for a purpose. It’s like as if we go through life collecting all the tools we need in order to do the work we need to do in the future. I remember playing computer games when I was younger and in order to get to different levels in the game, you had to conquer different challenges. And each challenge was more difficult than the previous one. And as I went through the computer game, I had to collect different tokens or objects which were all to help me with the different challenges as I was going to face them throughout the different levels of the game and therefore would help me to reach to the higher level and ultimately win the game. And that’s what the Snakes And Ladders Life is like. It’s the adventure of meeting the challenges head-on and seeing them as something that are there to help us actually achieve greater things as opposed to being the obstacles that stop us.

The Snakes And Ladders Life board game as I’ve described, we can understand how it affects our state of being also, how we feel about ourselves mentally and physically. You see, each time we hit the ladder it means we move up to a higher stage of being as well, a higher state of consciousness, a higher state of knowing our true selves. Equally each time we hit a snake, we move down to a lower state of being. So, take, for example, an event that occurs in our life like our home has been threatened of repossession by the bank or we lose our job or we’ve been made redundant. This can cause us to drop to a lower state of being. This might happen over a long period of time or it can happen very, very quickly. That is what has happened in relation to the COVID- 19 scenario, whereby it happens so very, very fast in our lives.

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While before we were in a higher state of being, we were focused on our ambitions and we were driven to go after what we want to. We can very quickly drop to a lower state of being, for example, we can drop to despair where we lose all purpose and all sense of meaning in life. And this can cause some of us to lower further that we’ll actually choose to look at a way of how we literally check out of the Snakes And Ladders Life permanently. You see, we move up and down these states all the time throughout our life. Some of us will be on the same state for many years. Others can move up and down different states through even the course of a day. Take for example, in a morning, you could have a business owner that might get confirmation of a brand new client that they’ve been looking to try and bring on board for quite a while and they’ve just been awarded a very large contract.

And as a result all of a sudden they’ve moved up to a higher state of being, a higher state of believing about themselves, about the business that they’re doing and what they’re doing in life. But then imagine in the afternoon that, that exact same business owner receives notice or a phone call or an email that they’ve just lost a major client. All of a sudden, the good thing that happened in the morning is overshadowed by this event and they drop to a lower state and a state of despair perhaps. You see we play the Snakes And Ladders Life game all the time. If you can imagine a heart rate monitor in the hospital where you see the line going across the screen and literally it goes up and down and it beeps occasionally, but then picture the different levels on the left vertical of the screen as being the different states that we all pass through while at the bottom horizontal of the screen is time.

The time can be measured in hours, in days, in weeks, in months or years. And as we go through life, that line, which is individual to each one of us moves up and down as we go through to different states. We go through life encountering these snakes and ladders and hence the reason we go up and down through these different states. And some snakes are small, others are large. Some ladders are small and some ladders are large. They’re the small wins and the big wins. But like before, if we were given the opportunity to stand back from the board game of life, we would see the board in its entirety. And as I said earlier on, we would actually be able to see where we finish. We would see all the snakes and we would see all the ladders.

But now imagine that there is another Snakes And Ladders board game to the right of yours and there’s one to the left of yours. In fact, if you were to look at it, there are similar board games surrounding all sides of your particular board game. And as you zoom out of your own board game and even further, there are more and more board games surrounding each of all the other players around you, each of all the other board games. So much so that if you allowed your mind’s eye to see it, you would see all the boards continued on all sides, far into the infinite, far beyond what you can actually see. And what you realise is that each person has their own Snakes And Ladders board game that they too are playing in life as well, their own Snakes And Ladders Life. And some of those people will move onto and through your own board just as much as you too will also move on to other people’s boards that are around you and back onto your own board game of life.

What you realise is that we’re all connected. Every single one of us, we’re all connected. That we all have this amazing and wonderful interplay with each other and as they go through life and they live and they play, they are all playing their own Snakes And Ladders Life game, just as much as you are as well. And that’s what we’re all working towards, moving towards, evolving towards, to this overarching one objective. Just imagine the amazement of the whole lot if you were to see it in its complete entirety because it is. You see life just like the Snakes And Ladders Life board game is supposed to be fun. Like the board game, it’s a game, it’s a fun game. It’s meant to be a fun game. It’s supposed to be a fun game. The more fun you have, the easier and the better it is to actually play at the Snakes And Ladders Life game.

So instead of chasing to get to reach the heights of our life and exiting at a 100, we should literally be having fun all along the way. And the more fun we have, then the more we actually obtain. That’s what the Snakes And Ladders Life is all about. So, consider where you are right now at the moment in your own Snakes And Ladders Life board game. Where does the next square lie for you? What does the next square hold for you? It’s about taking that next step. And just imagine what are the adventures that you’re going to have that are all ahead of you right now at the moment. And perhaps maybe it’s just time to roll that dice again and just see what that next square holds for you.

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How To Find Your Life Purpose

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How To Find Your Life Purpose

Have you ever considered what your life purpose is?

For some they see their life purpose as to get up in the morning – run their business – pay the bills – enjoy what their doing, their hobbies, their sports, their family – and then go back to bed. Only to get up the next day and do it all over again.

Day after day – doing the same thing – pretty much in a routine – work, play, rest.

And even if you don’t seek out finding a purpose for your life, can you imagine what your life could be like if you did have a higher purpose. A purpose much greater than yourself.

Then there are others that something shows up in their life, that triggers them to think – well what am I doing with my life. Where am I going. What’s the point of what I’m doing. There has to be more to this than just work, rest and play – right?

That’s when they’ve hit the critical threshold line that I spoke about on a previous blog.

They fluctuate between being consumed in their work – to contemplating the bigger questions in life – like what is the meaning in life, what is the purpose, what are we here for, what am I here for, what is the purpose of me being here?

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And for them they search for what is going to bring them meaning in their life, purpose in their life – to find out what the big grand plan is for their life.

And this search can take years, a lot of navel gazing, and a lot of expense in books, courses, guides….or traveling to remote places to “find themselves”.

But even after doing all that they still come back to the same question – what is my life purpose.

What am I to do with my life?

If I only have one life, I should make it count. I should make it matter.

And for many it’s about a desire to make a difference, to leave a legacy – but ultimately that leads to an inner desire to be remembered. So that when we’re gone, people will still remember us. They won’t forget that we existed. That we meant something while we were living. That we won’t be forgotten.

And typically we’ll look to people that we do remember in our lifetimes. And we normally start with the well known people like Martin Luther King and his I have a dream speech. Or the Wright Brothers that flew across the Atlantic and landed in a small village called Clifden. Or Nelson Mandela for his resolve, his transformation and his way of being after he had been imprisoned for 27 years.

There are so many that we look up to as leaders and as people that have made a difference – both young and old – both male and female.

We still remember them. They’ve left a legacy. They’ve made their mark on the world. There’s still a part of them that is still here.

And then we might be drawn to the people that have been closer to our own lives – it could have been a grandparent, a parent, a sibling, a friend, a boss, a stranger. And there might be something that they said or did or somewhat that they helped alter the course of our life for the better – and we still remember the moment they had that impact. We can still bring to mind where it was, what they said, who was there, how it took place, and more importantly how it made us feel inside.

They made a difference in our lives. They had an impact. We still remember them. They left a legacy.

You see, it doesn’t matter how large or how small the difference was in terms of the numbers of people that we make a difference for, or that we’ve impacted, or that remember us – it’s the fact that we did.

That we took the time out to make that difference. That we decided that that’s what our life is about. That our intention was to make a difference for someone else – to make their lives better in some way.

There was a story that was told to me by one of my mentors

Imagine for a moment a picture made with mosaic tiles, a spectacular picture with hundreds of pieces, of all shapes, colours and sizes. Together, they make up the most amazing picture. As a complete picture, it’s beautiful and whole. But you then notice that one of the pieces is loose. So you go over and you take that piece away.

Now imagine the picture. It’s not so beautiful anymore, is it? You can see the space that has been left behind by that one missing mosaic tile. The overall picture doesn’t quite look right and the colours don’t seem to be as radient and vibrant anymore. It’s just not the same amazing picture as it was before, when all the pieces were there in their correct place. Even though it was a tiny piece that you removed, it has a dramatic effect on the beauty of the picture.

Although you may look at your life as being small, perhaps that you’re not making millions in your business or fighting the great cause of the vulnerable, one thing is for sure, no matter how small you feel in the world, you make a massive difference to how the world works. You have a big impact on the people you meet and interact with, even though you might not even see it at the time. Those small acts that you take for granted become tidal waves in this big amazing world of ours. Just like the missing mosaic tile, if you don’t play your part in the world, it won’t look as amazing as it could do.

So if we are all part of a bigger plan and journey, and we have a part to play in this world, how do we find out what that plan is? How do we find our purpose in what we are doing with our lives? How do we bring meaning and fulfilment to our lives?

Victor Frankl as you might know is a person that survived the concentration camp, when many others around him didn’t. And in his book, “Man’s search for meaning”, he refers to the fact that it’s the meaning we give things in life, that gives us meaning in our life.

Others speak about that you must first find your why – why you’re doing what you’re doing. And that if you find your why, then everything will transform from there.

While others talk about finding your passion, and this will lead to your life purpose.

And then there are those that say there is no purpose to be found!

Honestly, none of these worked for me. And they didn’t work for my clients either.

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Firstly, there are a lot of things I’m passionate about, and the vast majority are not in line with my life purpose – for example my passion for red wine or my passion for all things flight related have nothing to do with my life purpose. What I have found, which is the opposite to conventional, is that passion follows finding your life purpose. When you’re on your life purpose, your passion grows and grows exponentially the more and more you are on your purpose. So there can be many people chasing their passions, in the hope that they will find their life purpose, whereas it’s the other way around.

Because ultimately what can be interpreted is that if we give enough of a meaning to something, then we can make anything our purpose.

But having an overriding meaning in real terms, that makes a difference, that compels us to be driven – is to answer a fundamental question for ourselves.

When it came to Edison – his overriding question was to find out how to use electrical current to bring light. The Wright brothers overriding question was to find out how to fly. Martin Luther King’s overriding question was how to have blacks treated no differently to whites. Victor Frankl’s overriding question was to find the answer to what would bring a focus to an individual so much so that everything else around them became meaningless and therefore drove them to keep living.

You see we all have an overriding question to be fulfilled within ourselves. But we then go about looking for the answer to the wrong question.

We look for the answer to the question of what is our life purpose – when in fact we don’t spend time to realise that there are other questions that we’re trying to find the answer to. That inwardly we’re driven to find the answer to. Which when we find the answer, will then make the difference for others.

Ultimately your overarching purpose in life is to be you, to experience, to live life fully, to love, to evolve.

That’s it.

Yet each and every word that I just said, has a much more deeper meaning than at first glance.

Our purpose in life is to be you, your unique you. To experience fully. To live life fully. To love and to evolve.

I’m likely to come back to these and what they fully mean in later blogs – as they are such critical messages.

Other than that, while others don’t believe we have a defined life purpose, I believe that we do have a life purpose. We have a mission to fulfil. And one that drives us forward to achieve it and one that brings maximum meaning and fulfilment to our lives.

How do I know?

Well, in the second blog I mentioned that I was the seventh son to be born in my family.

But let me reveal a bit more about myself which becomes relevant to when we’re talking about our purpose in life.

Yes I was the seventh son to be born in my family. But I’m also the seventh son of the seventh child, which was also the seventh child.

Now in Ireland there is a lot of mythology around the seventh son regarding healing abilities and the likes. But let me tell you some of how it is expressed for me.

There are two main things – since I was as young as I can remember, I had what I call knowings or downloads. And second I was able to pick up empathically what an individual was feeling deep inside themselves.

It’s these knowings and empathic feelings that gave rise to some of the causes for my depression and suicide ideation. Not all of it, but some of it.

Now how this worked in my favour was that while others referred to be as being really lucky and successful, I knew differently.

It has been the reason why I’ve had such a success rate in turning companies around. In fact I’ve turned around every company I’ve worked with.

But more importantly when I work with clients, I get, again what I refer to as knowings and downloads for my clients. Not all the time and not for every client, but for the majority.

And these downloads give me the information and the images of what is needed for my clients to be on their right path. To be on their life purpose.

The images I get of what they’re meant to do in terms of the impact and what they’re life is to look like, are mind-blowing. What I mean by that, is that they are so amazing.

And each time I get my clients on their right path, the results that they get and the difference it makes for them personally are amazing.

And there have been some clients that didn’t take on board the information I shared with them, and that’s ok, because that’s where free will comes into play.

But in the early years – I had to keep all of this a secret. After all it’s not something a client expects from a business consultant.

And being so highly intuitive has made it open to so much ridicule. And that coupled with the empathetic feelings I was picking up – was leading to a very unpleasant life.

And when I did describe the images that I received in the downloads and knowings to my clients – because they were so amazing in terms of the difference I was seeing them making in the world – their first response was that they didn’t have the confidence or the courage to do that.

So I had to learn a different way of communicating with my clients so as to make sure they were put on the right track for them, and also so that they wouldn’t get scared.

And on top of that I doubted myself so much as I questioned was it just my conscious mind making it up.

So part of the work and the research I’ve done over the years has been to discover ways of finding the evidence in peoples lives that would give them all the information that they needed to find their own true life purpose.

They might not see the end outcome or the significant difference they are to make in peoples lives, but at least they would be on the right track.

If I found the evidence, that evidence then became the breadcrumbs so to speak, for them to find their way home – home to where they are meant to be in life, to being on the right track, on their life purpose.

So what is it that brings meaning and fulfilment?

Well let’s begin with meaning.

You see, teleology is the study of purpose and meaning.

The highest purpose is what the Greek philosophers referred to as the Telos, or the “end in mind”. Or what I call your North Star.

This Telos or North star is what you are most inspired to fulfil.

Napoleon Hill called your highest priority ‘your chief aim in life’.

So whatever your highest Genius Drivers is, you are inspired from within to fulfil. You are unconsciously driven to fulfil the most.

I spoke about your highest Genius Drivers on the previous blog. These Genius Drivers are unique to you.

When you marry your highest Genius Drivers with the overriding question you are seeking to fulfil, then you have your link, your connection to your life purpose. It’s how you achieve maximum fulfilment in life.

Let me say that again – your highest Genius Drivers are what you are most inspired to fulfil within. Your overriding question that you seek to fulfil the answer to, is your connection to becoming and fulfilling your life purpose.

When you are doing work that is in line with fulfilling that overriding question, and that is in line with your highest Genius Drivers, then you are most inspired to accomplish your mission. It is where you achieve maximum fulfilment. It becomes your mission in life to fulfil.

And as I said in the previous blog, when you are working in line with your Genius Drivers, then you are activating your Executive centre the most.

When you are activating your Executive Centre the most – you are more creative, more innovative, more motivated, more objective. And when you are aligned with your unconscious and your SuperConscious, you are inspired more, and find it easier to discover the fastest, easiest and less costly way of achieving your purpose.

When you turn your life purpose into your career or your business, you are then building a legacy, making a difference, and impacting many more peoples lives.

And when your business or career is serving ever more increasing numbers of people, then that’s when you achieve the levels of success that others refer to as being success.

If we take Bill Gates as an example – his overriding question was how could he put the power of a computer into the hands of everyone around the world. His purpose and vision was to see a computer in every home.

Steve Jobs overriding question was how could he enable every person to display and demonstrate their own unique personality. His purpose and vision was to break the norm and not fit into the status quo and to put the power into peoples hands whether it be in terms of their computer, their iPod, their iPhone.

Find your unique personal Genius Drivers and your overriding question that you’re looking to fulfil, and you’re well on your way to finding your true life purpose and mission in life.

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